Liebster award

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What an interesting day it has been!
Today, I got nominated for the Liebster Award by the lovely prenika. Thanks for the nomination and to all people: if you don’t know her, you should defenitely check out her blog! Thank you again for the nomination.  It makes me so happy!
Okay, here’s the rules:
1) Post a short Q&A about themselves
2) Answer the questions the tagger has asked
3) Create a new list of questions for their own nominees
4) Choose a list of their own nominees and notify them
About me:
Q: Were you named after anyone?
A: Kind of. My middle name is Rose and it was going to be my first name for a while. Both my great nan’s were called Rose. Both were very strong smart women.
Q: If you could go back to any time, during your own life, when would it be and how come?
A: I would go back to when i was 10. My nan died not long after my 18th birthday and i used to go my nan’s every day after school, i would love to relive those days. Those were the best days.
Q: What are your Top 3 things that matter to you more than anything else in the world?
A: Hmmm the top 3 things I would say number 1 is my siblings, we have had some ups and downs over the years but i don’t know what i would do without them. Number 3 is my boyfriend, i don’t know what i would do without him, he is my bestfriend and truely the love of my life and has been for the past 5 years. Number 3 is, my friends, even though i met them through my boyfriend they have become people i love to spend time with and truly be my self around.
Q: What is your favorite sport team? Why?
A: I dont really follow sport to be honest.
Q: Favorite Music?
A: Music is my life! so hard to choose a favourite, i like everything from rock, Motown, rap and even classical.
The questions that have been chosen for me: 
Q:What is your biggest regret in life, and if you are okay with sharing, How come?
A: My biggest regret in life is the path i went down when i was 17-18, instead of focusing at school i let the bullies win and i lost my joy for learning. I regret this because i know i could have done better and gone to university but i chose the hard way in life.
Q:If someone just came up to you and offered a helping hand with anything you needed at all, what would it be that you’d ask for help?
A: I would ask for help with ending the stigma to mental health. So more people get helped without feeling they are being judged.
Q:What is the most interesting thing you have come across in the last 2 weeks? It can be anything, the news, an item, something you never knew.
A: Hmm the most interesting thing i have come across in the last 2 weeks, has to be, i never knew is the Mandela effect. It’s when people share the same false memory but is it false or is it we have gone into a parallel universe?!
Q:Are you more of a morning person or a night owl??
A: Night owl definitely I am vial in the mornings. i am the type of person who doesn’t like to be spoken to until i am fully awake.
Q:Are you the type of person who feels uncomfortable when a conversation about sex comes up, or are you one to jump in and join the conversation?
A: Erm no strangly considering my anxiety, sex is normal thing don’t think anyone should be ashamed to talk about it.
My questions for you are:
1) If you could go back on time to any point where would you go and why?
2) What is your favourite quality about yourself?
3) If you could have any super power what would it be and why?
4) Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

I nominate:

 Neurodivergent Rebel @neurodivergentrebel
livien1995  @livien1995
life as Kaylee @lifeaskaylee24
Ryan Harbold @thedailyblurblife

Thank you for the nomination @dfriend1991 i really appreciate it 🙂 helped put a smile on my face 🙂 and to the ones nominated i love your blogs and you have all been very supportive of mine. Good luck!

Take care,

Shadow Of The Day


Hey everyone!

This is not my originally planned blog I was working on, due to the sad news of Chester Bennington passing away from suicide; I am going to devote this blog to his memory.

Chester was the lead singer of Linkin Park, they created the way for nu-metal and even if you were not into that type of music I am more than positive you were a fan of one of their songs. He will be remembered by his beautiful but honest lyrics and his haunting vocals. He clearly met a lot of the people around him and his fans as the tributes pour in.

I remember when I started listening to them (borrowing my brothers CD’s) and I instantly was like I LOVE THIS BAND!! I was at the start of my emo phase in my life and probably the most difficult time. They have been slated time now and then because of their music changes but what the hell is wrong with that. But in 2007 my life and my mental health were on a downward spiral, and I saw no end to it. So it was one of the first times I considered ending my life. I remember one night I was sat in my room feeling very disconnected from the world. I was listening to a random play list drinking vodka with a bunch of painkillers next to me. As just as I had made the decision to write a note the song shadow of the day came on. I just stopped what I was doing and listened and I broke, I cried till there were no tears left. I felt like it was fate hearing those lyrics at that point and till this day I know that song saved me from taking my life.

From the people who I know who was a fan of him, there is something we have in common, and that Linkin Park’s music has saved their lives at some point. Their lyrics were so deep and filled with emotion and obviously a reflection of the turmoil he was going through with his mind for a long time.


So this brings me on to my tip of the day which is……. HELP!


Sadly he is not the only person who’s demons are just too much for him to handle, and it shows you that you can have the world at your feet but still deal with the bitch of depression. There are so many people out there who are dealing with mental illness alone and feels like there isn’t anything that can help them, I know I have been there. But you are wrong there is the help and support out there, the best thing I ever did was  admitting to myself and to others I needed help.

So there is one thing we can take away from the tragedy is this stigma linked to mental health problems needs to be wiped out. Please if you are suffering speak out to someone whether it is a friend, family member or doctor just someone. The weight you carry on your shoulders will lighten, by opening up not only are you helping yourself but you’re helping others. You are helping wipe out the stigma; you help others not feel so alone. So before you think it’s the end for you remember your story isn’t over with yet.

Stay safe out there people, we are all in this together.

Vicky xxx



Counting Sheep…..


Hey everyone 🙂

Hope you all had a great weekend, I was a very busy bee this weekend, went to the cinema (war of the planet of the apes what a great film), it was my friends baby girl’s naming ceremony. So even though it was a great weekend seeing friends, it eventually caught up with me and by Sunday evening my diva of anxiety was tingling away under my skin. It felt like my thoughts were going 60 miles a minute just couldn’t seem to slow them down. Did I say something stupid? Did I look stupid? Do they really like me? Wow, my anxiety is such an attention seeking cow bag! Just let me have a great weekend without second guessing it, please.

So this brings me on to my tip of the day…….. REST!

Sleep one of my favourite past times, it is just as important as eating and drinking to a human being. My sleeping pattern admittedly is not great, I either can sleep too much or too little I am struggling to find a happy medium. My off such is broken and I really don’t know how to fix it but I am going to take the steps to improve it the best I can.
Sleep can do wonders for your body in so many ways, you recharge your batteries and it gives you mind some time to rearrange your thoughts into the right boxes up there.
The first step I am taking is routine, I am trying to do things that relax me every night an hour before I need to sleep. I say goodnight to the people I am talking to so I don’t have any distractions while I am trying to get settled. Mute group chats because even know I am going to sleep they could talk for hours and that “beep beep” is just too tempting for me to ignore. The second step I am taking is some nights I will have a nice hot bath with candles music, you know the typical girl’s stuff but you know what it works. I recommend getting into to bed earlier than you need to, get comfy and do something in bed for maybe 30 minutes, some people read some do adult colouring books, whatever floats your boat.
Now there are 3 things I have tried and tested and can work a treat on me to get me to sleep.
• Sleep hypnosis recordings on YouTube can work wonders. Some of them can be hit or miss and don’t work for everyone, my boyfriend things they are annoying for instance. But I have found some great ones for anxiety and depression. I will add some links at the bottom.
• Lavender spray, again this one I really wasn’t sure about but a friend recommended it to me. Smell is one of those senses that can evoke the mind just think of when you smell food cooking you are instantly hungry. A few sprays and your pillow smells like you have just washed them, you can’t beat that feeling of fresh smelling sheets. The spray definitely brings on feelings of relaxation.
• Valerian capsules, this are an herbal tablet I have tried on and off for a while. They actually have a multi use, they can be used to help anxiety as well as aid sleep. So my use for them has varied but I have always seen great results from them. You can get them from Holland and Barrett or other health food places and very reasonably priced.

Like I said at the beginning, I am not perfect and I a still trying to sort my routine out, but I think we all can relate to that feeling when we do finally get a good night sleep. We can go to bed feeling the weight of the world on our shoulders and then when we wake up it has lightened. I feel like under sleeping is a lot easier to fix then over sleeping when I am depressed, I am still trying to work on that.
Well, thank you for reading guys and girls. Pleasant dreams!

Vicky xxx

Two hypnosis channels I use.



Hey everyone 🙂

I hope everyone is looking forward to the weekend I know I am! So I am currently coming out of a manic cycle to a depressive cycle and now I am feeling back to normal (well as normal as can be!). Like my moods, my life can be very up and down. I feel like I know what I want now (kind of); it has only taken me 28 years! This week has been a big week for me, I have accepted my diagnosis of having Cyclothymia, I have applied for my dream job and I have started the process with dealing with my PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome). Also on top of that the normal day-to-day problems, bills, and relationships this is why I need a holiday!

I obviously blog a lot about mental health, there are many factors that influence mental health, lifestyle, the past, medical conditions etc. I posted before about PCOS, but since I am going through another stage with it at the moment I thought it was the time I talked about it a bit more. I know this condition has a big influence on my mental health due it being a hormone imbalance and it affects my everyday life and my future.

So in my post before about PCOS, I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18/19 and I had known for a few years prior that something wasn’t right. Over the years I have learned to deal with it the best I can, sadly the help and support out there isn’t great for it, which is so infuriating. What people don’t understand it is not something that affects people with it once a month it is on going. The weight gain, the hair thinning the excess hair growth and the pain. Also, that is also linked with heart disease, diabetes, mental health, and infertility. Now tell me why this condition isn’t more looked into? Why isn’t there more help? Why is it when I go to the doctors they don’t want to know unless I am looking at trying for a baby, it’s not fair. I have lost count how many times a doctor has turned round and told me I’m over weight (dur I have a mirror), given me medication meant for people with diabetes, its soul-destroying that it feels like no one wants to help.
So it has come to a point where enough is enough, I am tired of periods that cause me to miss days off work because they are extremely painful, sucks the energy out of me and makes my life hell for 5 days. Also never knowing when they are going to happen, not exactly the surprise I want every month. I want to be able to go to the hairdressers more than 2/3 times a year because it causes me to have anxiety because of my hair thinning. It’s time to try to take back control!
Christmas last year was not full of joy for me sadly, me and my partner went through a miscarriage, with the awfulness of that situation wasn’t bad enough, my PCOS just got worse ever since, my weight has sky rocketed, my periods come and go as they please, it was the straw that broke the camels back.
So this last month or so I have done more research into PCOS, I have looked into the way I eat all I can say is thank you PINTEREST!!. I found so many articles about the low GI diet being a great diet for PCOS. I learned all about different food affect my hormone levels and insulin levels and I have started my journey with that diet. The worst part is no milk and cheese thinking about it makes me want to cry, it took me time to get used to almond milk in my tea. I will add some links at the end giving better information than what I could.
I am a big believer in natural medicine and I scoured the Internet for natural supplements to take and I have found a few things. I read up on castus tablets I saw a lot of good reviews on them helping fertility and balancing out hormones. Then I found MYOVA, finally something made for PCOS, the only thing out there that is. I haven’t tried them yet but I will be ordering them this month and I will do a post about them.
I have now been referred by my doctors to a fertility consultant. I went to my first appointment this week and it was amazing. They went through my blood tests with me and gave me some great advice about my diet. I have been booked in for some further blood tests and some scans on my ovaries and my one tube (I only have the one). I finally feel like a doctor is finally trying to help me, and I felt like a weight has been lifted.
PCOS has a big influence on my mental health, I have no confidence with the way I look due to my weight, I am petrified I won’t be able to have kids and it is something I think about on a daily basis and it really gets me down. But now I am on a journey with improving it and hopefully, I will see a positive effect on my body and my mind. I have linked my Pinterest to the page if you would like to have a look at what I have found.
Thank you again for reading 🙂

Vicky xxx


Is Vitex a Remedy for PCOS Symptoms?


Changes Can Be Good


Hey, everyone 🙂

So I decided my blog needed a bit of a reboot, so I decided to change the look I hope you like it. 🙂 There are few new things coming to my blog soon………

  • Contact Page! I have a page but nothing on it (that’s me half a job!) but I will be adding some details soon (promise!), so I can have more contact with the lovely people who read my blog. 🙂
  • Also, I am going to be doing more different types of posts, I have a few things planned, I love the tip of the day so that is staying obviously. but I will be doing more reviews on things that help me with my mental health journey, and hopefully some guest bloggers as well.
  • I want to keep my page fresh and relevant with my day-to-day life so there will be some new stories and updates on things that I am doing alongside my mental health posts. I am going to push myself and post more regularly.
    A vlog, now for all of you who have checked out my about page there is a picture of me (so you have been warned about this mug of mine) but I have wanted to do a vlog for a while now and it’s something I will be looking into as well.
  • Lastly, your comments and input mean a lot to me and I really didn’t think I would have achieved what I have so far with this blog, thank you, everyone! So if there is something you want to see more of or even less of please let me know 🙂

Take care everyone 🙂

vicky xxxxx

Sometime I Can Be An Ass


Hey everyone 🙂

Hope you all have had a great start to the week. My week has had a bit of a bumpy start; I went from going from a manic mood to crashing down to a low one, I felt like my mind had given me whiplash. Since I have been in contact with more people with mental health problems similar to my own, I now feel more prepared for these things. I always say this but you lot definitely help keep me going your stories and support are so inspiring.
I don’t know about you but I can feel so overwhelmed with the severity of my moods and places my mind can go, I miss out on opportunities and experiences, which leaves me with a lot of what ifs questions. I have had a lot of people tell me to stop dwelling on the past but it’s not so easy as it sounds, not to dwell on it. The past is a lot easier to dwell on then looking towards the future because the past has happened it’s kind of comfortable to analyze it over and over then what could happen in the future, Eurgh the anxiety I get on what could happen or might happen, it’s like an out of control inner brainstorm.

So this brings me to my tip of the day…….. Assume.

Assume, what a dangerous word that is, as the saying goes if you assume you make an ASS out of yoU and ME. There are many ways we can assume, jumping to opinions, dwelling, over thinking etc. When you start assuming the snowball effect happens, you start feeling worse about yourself and others to the point where you going to need to get a secretary to start writing out the minutes of the inner debate you have with yourself.
We assume to try to protect ourselves from things, but sometimes we don’t need to that. Yes, bad things and bad people are out there but sometimes we have to experience a mistake to learn from them. I know I have made plenty of mistakes in the past and I know I have learned a lot from them. They have shown me my inner strength, that certain things I assumed were right for me weren’t and I wouldn’t have the things I have now without them.
We can also assume that people out there are just going to hurt us, but we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. Yes, there is bad things and bad people out there but there is also good things and good people.
Try not to miss out on things because you are assuming it won’t end well. I am not perfect myself and I am trying to get better at not assuming myself, it won’t happen overnight just small steps but its steps in the right direction.

Take care,

Vicky xxx


You can never guess or assume what anyone is going to think. – J. J. Abrams

Once Upon A Time 

story 2

Hey everyone 🙂

Hope you all are having a great weekend. I am currently coming down from having a manic mood, finally being able to sleep is a great feeling. I love to sleep because I love to dream, dreams are a magical thing, you are you but the story is not your current one it’s something new and a welcome break sometimes from reality. I have always been a dreamer since I can remember, I have always created stories and had an over active imagination. Being able to read a book and feel like I am in it, feeling what they feeling, the joy, the anger, the fear and the sadness. I believe you can find a story in everything, for instance in music the lyrics are telling a story you just have to listen closely sometimes. The problem with being such a dreamer I keep waiting for my happy ending to happen and when I feel that path is so far away from me in can leave such a disappointing feeling deep inside me. But my story isn’t finished yet, it has only just begun.

So this leads me to my tip of the day, which is…….. LIVE

We can get so caught up with the things around us and the problems we have, we forget that our story isn’t over with yet. A lot of you like myself, have had a very bumpy road so far and it’s made us just want to end our journey sooner than we should. But there is still so much out there we haven’t experienced and sometimes the greatest experience comes from the worst. I never want people to feel like I am preaching to them. The interactions I have had with people, hearing your stories I feel the words you write.

I am just as guilty of forgetting to live, to being so overwhelmed with the war inside my mind, it can knock me off the track of taking things day by day. Just because sometimes you may lose a battle with your mind doesn’t mean you will lose the war. Sometimes we need to dust ourselves off and move forward as we are stronger than we think. We are the author of our story we just have to live it.

Take care,

Vicky xxx

We all live in suspense from day to day; in other words, you are the hero of your own story. – Mary McCarthy

Sometimes A Song Is Needed


Hey everyone 🙂

So this is not a usual post for me. Something happened yesterday that really annoyed me and hurt. This blog to me, is me bearing my soul, it’s me opening up more about my crazy little things. It’s been a great form of therapy to me. Sadly someone I know didn’t feel that way when they read it, but my response to that is fuck it!

There is always one song I listen to, that really helps me when things like that happen so I thought I would share it with you

The song is by a band called Staind and its called For You, I remember hearing it for the time about 5 years ago. I felt like someone had gone into my brain and turned what I was feeling into a song. The song speaks to me, sometimes I can cry while listening to it, sometimes I feel a weight lift off my shoulders when listening to it as it’s like my release.

Here are the lyrics:
To my mother, to my father
It’s your son or, it’s your daughter
Are my screams, loud enough for
You to hear me, should I turn this up for you

I sit here locked inside my head
Remembering everything you said
The silence, gets us nowhere
Gets us nowhere way too fast

Your silence, is what kills me
I need someone, here to help me
But you don’t know, how to listen
And let me make, my decisions

I sit here locked inside my head
Remembering everything you said
The silence, gets us nowhere
Gets us nowhere way too fast

All your insults, and your curses
Make me feel like I’m not a person
And I feel like, I am nothing
But you made me, so do something
‘Cause I’m fucked up, because you are
Need attention, attention you couldn’t give

‘Cause I sit here locked inside my head
Remembering everything you said
The silence, gets us nowhere
Gets us nowhere way too fast
I sit here locked inside my head
Remembering everything you said
The silence, gets us nowhere
Gets us nowhere way too fast

Here is the song 🙂 enjoy!

Check it out 🙂

Take care vicky xxxx

The F Word

fuck it

Hey everyone,

Hope everyone is well? Me, well I feel like a damn yo-yo with my ups and downs. Today though I think I am having just a day, it’s not a great day or a bad day; today I’m just me. I think the cloud of depression and the diva of anxiety has gone on holiday, the first time ever I wish I were with them, as I need a holiday!
So because those two aren’t taking over the mind my creative juices are following, so many ideas for future posts I have started to outline in my notebook, I actually picked up a new book today and felt that joy again about getting into a story. I know I am getting more and more days like this, where I can be me again, I even might go for a jog later. Well, there are many new things coming to the blog soon, which I can’t wait to share it with you! But today is another tip of the day ☺

So my tip of the day is…….. Fuck it!

I am so serious about this, I am sorry if you are offended by that type of language but fuck it! We all can get so caught up with our mental health, being so scared of what we are thinking, scared what others are think of us. But now and then we need to just say fuck it to ourselves.
There are many people I have spoke to on here and my twitter and I wish I could take away the pain you go through. We are so worried about being judged and labeled, but my response to being labeled and judged is fuck it. I cannot go into that person’s head and reset the arsehole in them.
If you are having a really bad day and you want to switch off from the world, fuck it, have a you day. Listen to your favourite song over and over, read your favourite book, have a chocolate bar, buy that top you want, don’t worry about other people worry about you.
If you want to apply for a job that you think you might not get or out of your reach, fuck it! It’s worth a try, isn’t it?
If you have a friend in your life that acts more like an enemy (frenemy) fuck it! Don’t give them the satisfaction of having that power over you, hold your head high and just say goodbye.
The path you are on is a hard one and there probably be further bumps along the way, so give yourself a rest from time to time and say fuck it!

Just a short one today as I think fuck it doesn’t need much explaining! Today I am going to be saying fuck it by buying myself another new book because I’m worth it ☺ how are you going to say fuck it??

Take care,

Vicky xxx

Every cloud


Hey everyone 🙂


Here we are the 1st of July, this year is over half way now and the best thing for me so far this year, has been starting this blog. I haven’t done most of the things I said I would do this year, so far I haven’t started driving lessons, lost weight, new job, new house, a holiday, I could go on….. But there have been things that I have done I have quit smoking, I have spoken up more about my mental health, I have made the steps towards the career I want, I have improved my diet.


This leads me to my tip of the day……. The Silver Lining!


I can’t stop myself from being my own worse enemy and internally beat myself up over things I haven’t done or should have done. Seriously I really need to get a bodyguard for my mind to help me with those battles! It’s so easy to focus on the negatives rather than the positives, which I know a lot of you can relate to because of its human nature.

What I have started doing is trying to level out the playing field when I am being from negative about my life. For example, yes I am not on the property ladder yet, but I do have a roof over my head. I have the freedom to move around till I found somewhere I want to settle. There are still many places I want to live before I make a commitment. I really have some way to go at building better relationships with my family, which saddens me, that things are at that bad. What I do have though, that I never had before is strong relationships with my siblings, things are moving forward. See, every cloud….

My suggestion when the dark cloud of depression or the diva of anxiety decides to but into your life, make a list of these negative thoughts going through your mind. Then next to these negatives write a positive, even if the positive is I am still here, it’s still a positive.

Also, there are times where I feel I can not help myself I feel completely lost, so I try to turn that into a positive. I am more aware of people feeling the same as me these days, so I try and be other people’s silver lining. Be a shoulder to cry on, a friendly ear, build people up, and you will soon feel not so lonely by making someone else feel cared for. When I reach out to others in the same boat as me, its like I put my negative thoughts on mute, my focus is somewhere else not on me.

There are other ways of doing this as well, like volunteering for instance. Have a look into your local community and I am sure you will find many ways you could volunteer and help out.

Just remember this you matter in this world whether you think it or not. You have made a difference today by reading this blog; you have helped me feel not so alone.


Thank you for reading,