One of my favourite songs is “Don’t let me be misunderstood” by Nina Simone, that songs speaks to every fibre of my soul. It speaks of the internal battle we can feel going inside us all. The blurred lines of feeling good but bad at the same time and the worry of our internal struggle is having an impact on our surroundings.
Most of us have felt misunderstood, not heard or not recognised. Most of us have tried to change who we are to fit in with our surroundings because we didn’t want that feeling anymore. It doesn’t take it away though it is just a bandaid for a deep wound and sooner or later that bandaid will no longer be able to hold that fakeness and who we are together.
Changing who you are to fit someone else’s narrative doesn’t make it your narrative, that is not your story.
A star is born when atoms of light elements are squeezed under enough pressure for their nuclei to undergo fusion. All stars are the result of a balance of forces: the force of gravity compresses atoms in interstellar gas until the fusion reactions begin.
Your story is what makes you who you are, the pressure, the changes and sometimes the total destruction of who we are to become who we need to be. Remember stars didn’t just appear in the night sky they are formed over a period of time and that goes for us too.
We go through changes, ups and downs in life to form who we are. So next time you are worried that you don’t fit someone else’s narritive, remember you have come so far to not let your story be your own story and to be that star.