Welcome back to crazy little things! I hope everyone is doing ok and if you are not, well that is ok too because you don’t have to be ok all the time as you are only human. The thing about having a mental illness is that people can forget I have normal people problems too, not everything is an issue down to having bipolar or anxiety. Not every time I don’t want to go somewhere is down to anxiety, sometimes I don’t want to deal with people or there is someone there who I don’t like or to put it simply I don’t want to adult today. Being an adult is great but also sucks at the same time and there seems to be so much pressure to be a certain type of adult. Responsible, sensible, quirky and now instagramable! (not a word but you know what I mean).
The conversation about being an adult has been highly discussed in my household at the moment as me and my partner have been feeling the pressure about what we are and where we should be. The thing is being an adult can be complicated enough without all these damn rules about where we should be at certain points in our lives. So this has made me make two decisions. One of them is, to embrace the adult I want to be and not who I am told I should be. Two is that I am now working on a book about being an adult, the ups and the downs and look into why are we putting rules on ourselves when we are not kids anymore.
So today’s tip of the day is-
Be careful about what rents space inside your mind.
I am a sensitive soul and I struggle not to let things get to me. I can be easily drawn into a cycle of self-hatred over the smallest things. Some see this as a fault but being sensitive also means; when I love, I love deeply. Every personality trait can be like flipping a coin there is good and bad in each one, it just means sometimes it is down to what wins the flip.
Being sensitive also means there is a lot of space up for rent inside my mind, I wish I actually received the rent money as it would mean I would be rolling in it. That space is precious and maybe we should start running background checks on the things that want to take up space there.
• Does it serve a purpose?
• Does it have actual facts to back it up?
• Is it going to undo the work that I have already done?
Asking those questions from time to time can help prevent renting space to something that doesn’t deserve to be there.