Welcome back to crazy little things! I hope everyone is doing ok and if you are not, well that is ok too because you don’t have to be ok all the time as you are only human. So the sun is shining, the birds are singing and there is music in the air. Well, that is a bit of an exaggeration of what I am feeling but those few days of happiness that you feel after a long depressive cycle are fucking amazing. To wake up in the morning with energy instead of less energy then you had before you went to sleep is crazy. I actually feel like I do things now but like normal things, like shower and eat breakfast, it has been so long that I have felt I am able to take care of myself. My mind has breathing room now, instead of being suffocated by negative thoughts and new interesting things are now having the space to bounce around up there and that, to me is exciting. Don’t get me wrong though, I have to be careful not to run before I can walk and not take on too much because having bipolar can feel like your mind is like a set of scales and it could take one trigger to tip the scale.
Today I wanted to talk about myths about mental illness…
I am not a murderer!
I have a thing for documentaries and a lot of the documentary programs I have been watching are about murders and through this, I have found myself getting slowly annoyed by them. “She has bipolar” “He has BPD” so they are mentally unstable, so no surprise they killed someone. This is everywhere though, it is in our movies, TV shows and books that a lot of the bad people have a mental illness. I feel like it is the easy way out to say that because a person has a mental illness they are going to end up doing something bad to someone. I have never felt the need to harm another person, as most of my negative thoughts are aimed at myself.
As a society, it has become the norm that a person with mental illness can be labeled as crazy and it has also affected my own decision on whether I should have children or not. Now that is crazy. Mental illness shouldn’t dictate whether you are perceived as bad or not.
▪ We are not going to kill you. I believe any person may be capable of murder and just like we shouldn’t make assumptions based on the colour of a persons skin, we shouldn’t be doing it based on their mental illness.
▪ We can be good parents. I am not a parent yet but I think a good parent is someone who loves and protects their child not whether they have a mental illness or not. As long as the person is supported and cared for and want to have a child, then their parenting skills shouldn’t be called into question because of having a mental illness.
▪ We do the same things as you. We have bitch fits, we cry, we get angry and get scared like anybody not just because we are having a breakdown or depressed – because we are human.