Telling someone to cheer up isn’t a cure for depression!


Hey everyone,

Welcome back to crazy little things! I hope everyone is doing ok and if you are not, well that is ok too because you don’t have to be ok all the time as you are only human. What the fuck is wrong with me? I honestly feel like I could do with a good cry but I have been stopping myself from getting overly emotional because when I cry my eyes swell, which doesn’t help my current condition. I feel so pent up though, like when you try and fit into your favorite pair of skinny jeans and you know if you breathe out too hard the flys are going to burst open. I feel like I could burst open at any moment, so many things weighing on my shoulders and so many things are irritating the fuck out of me and it is only going to take one small thing to burst open. This is why I haven’t done a post about letting things go because how can I tell people to let things go if I can’t?
With my past haunting me and the present being difficult no wonder it feels like the situations are colliding into one another and causing thunder and lightning inside my mind. The one thing I crave for my future is peace of mind and it feels even further out my reach right now. Yeah it might sound like I am being a negative nelly right now but I am owning my feelings right now and remember what I always say at the beginning of every post, it is ok not to be ok.

So today’s tip of the day is –

Telling someone to cheer up isn’t a cure for depression!

With the many years I have dealt with depression and anxiety, I have come across the occasional person (honestly wanted to put idiot and then thought I can’t say that, but I guess I kind of said it though oops!) who thought they had the magical cure for it. What you didn’t know depression and anxiety, no actually all mental illness can be cured? Well you just need to hear these magical words off someone and boom it is gone:
• Cheer up.
• It could be worse.
• You are being dramatic.
• It is all in your head.
• Just drink more water and exercise.
• Mental illness is a myth you are just not trying hard enough.

Honestly, I could go on because I have heard some right bangers when it comes to this. Unfortunately, I haven’t been cured by these magical sentences. Seriously though, 50% of the time the people who are saying these don’t mean any harm they are trying to help the best they can and what better person to inform them on mental illness than someone who has a mental illness. The other 50% who think mental illness is a myth well they can go fuck off! There is a point to this mini rant I promise, next time someone says this to you try and inform them it is not so easy and try to tell them more information on mental illness. In the past I have usually answered back sarcastically to someone when they have said something like that to me and now instead I try to give them information about mental illness. We need to try to take down the wall of stigma surrounding mental illness even if it is a brick at a time.

Take care all,

Vixxy Rose


One thought on “Telling someone to cheer up isn’t a cure for depression!

  1. Only validation really helps and even then depression can be so deep rooted there is no easy fix. Summer Starts to Shine shared on her blog a while back a prompt Why Depression Isnt A Choice some years back and lots of people wrote on this subject. Being told to cheer up when you have depression is like being told to breathe deeply when you have asthma.

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