Hey everyone 🙂
Here we are the 1st of July, this year is over half way now and the best thing for me so far this year, has been starting this blog. I haven’t done most of the things I said I would do this year, so far I haven’t started driving lessons, lost weight, new job, new house, a holiday, I could go on….. But there have been things that I have done I have quit smoking, I have spoken up more about my mental health, I have made the steps towards the career I want, I have improved my diet.
This leads me to my tip of the day……. The Silver Lining!
I can’t stop myself from being my own worse enemy and internally beat myself up over things I haven’t done or should have done. Seriously I really need to get a bodyguard for my mind to help me with those battles! It’s so easy to focus on the negatives rather than the positives, which I know a lot of you can relate to because of its human nature.
What I have started doing is trying to level out the playing field when I am being from negative about my life. For example, yes I am not on the property ladder yet, but I do have a roof over my head. I have the freedom to move around till I found somewhere I want to settle. There are still many places I want to live before I make a commitment. I really have some way to go at building better relationships with my family, which saddens me, that things are at that bad. What I do have though, that I never had before is strong relationships with my siblings, things are moving forward. See, every cloud….
My suggestion when the dark cloud of depression or the diva of anxiety decides to but into your life, make a list of these negative thoughts going through your mind. Then next to these negatives write a positive, even if the positive is I am still here, it’s still a positive.
Also, there are times where I feel I can not help myself I feel completely lost, so I try to turn that into a positive. I am more aware of people feeling the same as me these days, so I try and be other people’s silver lining. Be a shoulder to cry on, a friendly ear, build people up, and you will soon feel not so lonely by making someone else feel cared for. When I reach out to others in the same boat as me, its like I put my negative thoughts on mute, my focus is somewhere else not on me.
There are other ways of doing this as well, like volunteering for instance. Have a look into your local community and I am sure you will find many ways you could volunteer and help out.
Just remember this you matter in this world whether you think it or not. You have made a difference today by reading this blog; you have helped me feel not so alone.
Thank you for reading,